I'm constantly amazed at the industry that has built up around telling women how not to be themselves in order to attract a man. We are told that "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus," so we better follow "The Rules" - and if we're not getting the results we want, well, "He's Just Not That Into You" (soon to be in movie theaters starring none other than Jennifer Aniston).

Here in Los Angeles, the lovelorn turn to Dr. Pat Allen, who has been here forever and a day peddling humorous relationship gender stereotypes to the desperate and fed up.

I've never actually seen Pat Allen in person, but every few years or so, a friend will recommend her. You can tell that someone has bought into Pat Allen Think when they say things like "doing that puts you into your masculine energy" or "you need to get back into your feminine energy."

by Stephanie Brail

A healer told me about the following technique a while ago. I don't even remember her full name; all I have is a set of notes on a single sheet of paper. So, whoever you are, thanks for the information.

A "soul-to-soul" conversation is a spiritual technique of forgiveness and letting go. The idea is that we are all somehow linked via spirit, that we can transmit our thoughts and feelings to others over distance. Even if you don't believe we are somehow spiritually linked, this exercise can still provide a sense of well-being and peace of mind.

Let's say you are at wit's end about a situation with someone, perhaps a family member. Maybe you've tried talking to the person but nothing seems to help. You can use the soul-to-soul conversation to help heal the situation, without ever speaking to the other party.